“Fake It ‘Til You Make It” is an old expression whose origin is hard to track down. It is similar to the saying, “Act As If,” which gets a humorous treatment by Ben Affleck’s tough-talking character in “Boiler Room.”
The idea is that concepts like confidence, luck, success, happiness, and wealth are self-fulfilling prophecies. Your emotions and your feelings create a powerful vortex that can either pull you up or drag you down.
I believe in this concept 100%, and I am a happy example of a person who faked it ’til I made it. Most of my friends know that I am a confident person. I was not always like this, though. Luckily, my mentors pointed out to me that feelings of inadequacy are self-fulfilling. Every little flash of self-doubt spawns more self-doubt.
If you think bad things happen to you, they do!
And they will, but the same holds true for good things.
If you can recognize that you are in this downward spiral, stop for a moment. Feign confidence in your next personal interaction. Smile, make eye-contact, and pay attention to your posture. Wear one of your sharper outfits to run your errands. Get a car wash. Exude confidence, success, luck, happiness, and wealth to the world. This is not about tricking your friends. It is about helping yourself. Create a positive-feedback loop that will suck you right out of even the deepest of whirlpools.